It will be our secret. No one will ever find out.  These famous lame phrases are always wrong.  It may be immediate or years down the road, but your tryst will come to light.  Then what happens, apologies, denials, anger, tears, and blame, all for what, to try and keep what you have distorted or to cause the dramatic end to your relationship.  While having an affair may be on your radar, here are 3 simple reasons to change your path.

  1. Disease


Guess what buttercup; by going down this road you have opened yourself up to a multitude of diseases.  Not just the ones that could end your life, but also ones that could leave you scarred, sterile and sick.  Never mind you now have the superpower of passing on your newfound cooties to your existing partner.  Good times all around. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, under sexually transmitted diseases, you will find: Bacterial Vaginosis, Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, Hepatitis, viral, Herpes, Genital, HIV/AIDS, Human Papillomavirus, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, Infertility, Syphilis, Trichomoniasis.

  1. 15 Minutes of Shame

Have you ever wanted to be famous?  No, yes, you don’t really care, well guess what now you are. Even if you use everything in your arsenal to keep your affair under wraps, when the truth comes out and it will, the spotlight will be directly on you.  Embrace the shame, the highlighted reels of your indiscretion.  Who cares if neighbours, friends, and family know, thanks to social media, your jilted ex or anyone really, can post the details of your affair for the world to see, comment and share.  Enjoy the fame.


  1. Personality Crisis

Whether it happened once or multiple times, the question you need to ask yourself is why, why did it happen in the first place?  Were you drunk with your girlfriends and through your rose coloured glasses you found the closest thing to Beckham at the bar.  5 drinks and 4 shots later the back of his car is getting to know you both intimately and rather awkwardly.  But the next day you profess your love to your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend.  Reality check, the problem is not your partner, faux Beckham, your friends, or your parents. No one is responsible for your actions except you.  Yes your relationship may be the worst ever or you have fallen out of love, either way, it does not give you carte blanche to cheat.  Own your feelings, be honest with your partner and either work on the relationship or end it.

We all have our ideas or stories on the pitfalls of cheating.  What are some of yours?

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